Yeah, I was real unhappy when I saw that, so I did some research. Apparently it’s a bid to raise awareness for the higher rate of suicide in young men due to toxic masculinity rendering men incapable of talking about their feelings? I’m cool with fighting toxic masculinity where it exists, but the name definitely isn’t my favorite thing in the world.
See, I think it’s a good thing that we have a Men’s Day and also that it’s a very separate direction from International Women’s Day. Because Women’s Day is about celebrating the ways that women have impacted the world, and carrying on that spirit of progress.
And having a Men’s Day that calls attention to problems in the masculine community is in that same spirit without overshadowing the importance of Women’s Day.
But the reason that I bring it up is that when we have Women’s Day, I almost always see a handful of people being pedantic and asking why we don’t have a ‘Men’s Day.’ And I’ve only seen one person talk about it today, and he’s not one of those pedantic people.
Of course its not a far cry to say that those dudes were just blowing smoke in the first place. But I really would like to see more people take the subject seriously instead of bringing it up only as a means to undermine the empowerment of others.
OKAY OKAY OKAY I KNOW THERE ARE SO MANY FANDOMS STARTING NOW, LIKE THE SINK FANDOM AND THE TREEHOUSE FANDOM AND THE BLANKET FORT FANDOM, BUT YOU ARE ALL MISSING ONE.
SECRET
FREAKIN’
ROOMS
LIKE
PEOPLE
BUILD ROOMS
WITHIN ROOMS
BUT THEY AREN’T LIMITED TO INSIDE THE HOME
THAT’S RIGHT
THERE ARE SECRET ROOMS FOR CARS
HONESTLY THOUGH
YOU EITHER LIKE SECRET ROOMS
OR YOU’RE WRONG
I have always wanted a house with secret rooms.
My goal in life is to become an eccentric recluse with an entire manor filled with secret rooms young intrepid junior-detectives will want to explore to look for clues.
I will then proceed to spook them periodically while wearing a bedsheet with holes cut out, and stare at them creepily from behind paintings.
This is my ultimate goal so far
And I just remembered that “sink fandom” was a thing on here
So apparently tumblr is going through some nsfw blog purges or some shit (to maybe handle all those porn blogs? idk this is such a hellsite) and accounts are getting deleted without notice even if you’re not posting nsfw content yourself.
Apparently the tumblr app got deleted from the Apple store due to the insane amounts of porn on here (the bots… we all know its the bots they haven’t given a shit about) so in order to get back into the app store, they’re on a deleting frenzy apparently (most likely a code that’s deleting without prejudice, and hopefully in wrong, properly-marked instances, folks can appeal the delete… idk right now). LOTS of artists have lost their work.
If you reblog NSFW material- not necessarily post it yourself- you’re at risk too, so mark your blog ‘explicit’ to save from being deleted. If you’ve ever reblogged anything from your safe-for-work blog which is explicit, mark it explicit anyways (better safe than sorry i guess).
On desktop:
You need to go to your settings (click the little man icon to get to the gear icon for settings)>click each individual blog (if you have side blogs)>scroll down to Visibility> and then mark that your blog/sideblog is explicit.
On mobile iOS:
Same thing. Click the little man to be taken to whatever blog you have selected atm> select the gear icon in the upper righthand corner for Settings>Scroll down to Visibility > mark explicit.
What mine looks like:
What happens when you do this is 1) it’ll hide your blog from anyone that has safesearch on (i.e. minors/folks who don’t like explicit stuff i guess?) and 2)any outside links you have to your blog (for example, I link my tumblr page on ao3 accounts) will no longer show up if the user isn’t logged in (you’ll get that “nothing new here” static page tumblr has when you’re logged out).
—>If you link your blogs from outside platforms like I do, you might want to make a note on those platforms that users will need to be logged in to see your blog (otherwise they might think the blog is deleted/deactivated/the person moved on to elsewhere etc. and that IS going to impact the hits you get and the amount of followers)
BACK UP YOUR BLOG:
It’ll save the data as such:
A Posts folder, with an HTML file for each post.
A Media folder, with the media from your posts, plus any media you’ve uploaded (like in messaging). These files will be in the format you uploaded them in (JPG, GIF, PNG, MP4, and so on).
A representation of your blog’s messaging conversations, in XML format.
A representation of your blog’s posts, also in XML format.thats all the stuff it has
It’s really easy to do (you have to do it from desktop; can’t export to your phone or something, though I might not be correct on that) following the same steps as above. Just when you click each individual blog, scroll all the way down, and under Blocked Tumblrs you will see Export Username (the username will match whichever blog you’re exporting). You will see a “Backup Processing…” note there instead of the export thing. It’s slow, especially if you’ve been here for years, but it does its thing.
Right now it seems like super-popular artists are getting hit first (laziness of code going after the biggest hits) but please protect yourself and back up your work. Also take steps to ensure your audiences on other platforms know wtf goes on on this hellsite and that they need an account or whatever. bleh
Dear girls, be intensely wary of men considerably older than you obsessed with “mentoring” you. They’re most likely trying to groom you. Speaking from experience.
I want to make it clear I’m not just speaking to underage/teen girls. Any younger girl, and this can happen to not that young women as well.
Just because the guy isn’t technically a pedophile, doesn’t make him any less predatory. When you’re in your 20s you may not be a kid anymore, but you’re not fully developed as an adult either. You’re still vulnerable to predators who have the advantage of more experience and thus tools you don’t yet have, in addition to the other advantage of power imbalance due to gendered relations.
A man who wants to be your mentor, especially if he says he wants to “shape” you or anything similar, is a man who’s trying to turn you into his puppet, to make you “develop” (be molded) into the girl/woman that serves his pleasure, even if not directly sexual.
There’s predators who get off on the intellectual performance of the younger female objects of their obsessions. There’s predators who get off on your social development fitting their not-necessarily sexual fantasies. There’s predators who get off on the idea of taking a depressed girl and becoming her “savior”.
There’s people who get off to feet and fucking statues, you best believe there’s predators who get immense satisfaction from mental games against vulnerable girls/women even if they’re not (directly) sexual. And even if those things aren’t sexual at all to you, it will fuck you up. Because you’ll know or feel that you’re being used against your will, that you’re not being treated as a human, you’ll feel trapped, you’ll feel controlled, you’ll feel hopeless and disgusted with what he’s turning you into.
It’s about control, it’s about possession, it’s about ownership of who you are, it’s about having the perfect doll to play with.
It’s about you becoming mentally, emotionally, intellectually, socially dependent on them. It’s about a boost of their egos.
Regardless of your age, but especially if you’re considerably younger than him, and you see signs of him being fixated on this, RUN AS SOON AS YOU CAN.
Can people reblog this version? Because I’m tired of people who supposedly care about abuse victims dropping any concern and compassion for female victims of grooming as soon as a girl turns 18 like she wasn’t a literal kid five minutes ago.
Reminder that it’s pretty much guaranteed Marvel won’t include Polaris in their holiday X-Men book despite her Jewish ancestry and Magneto having a story.
If you want to see Lorna discovering her Jewish roots through Hanukkah, you’ll need to get it through fandom (which has written great fanfic and drawn great fan art in this regard).
heads up any racist artists wanting to pick a fight with me I do not care about how hard being an artist is the fact is there are so many black and brown artists proves you wrong so get lost with your excuses.
also specifically for Pietro and Wanda if you can acknowledge they’re Jewish you can acknowledge they’re Romani too these are not mutually exclusive things.
why DO teenage girls go through a witch/occult phase? I had tarot cards and a spellbook and I knew a group of girls who messed with ouija boards and another who had ghost hunting equipment. “oh yeah Cindy’s just going through that girly phase where she tries to raise the dead.”
theory – we want power and know our culture doesn’t want to give us any?
Addendum: witches are one of the few cultural figures of female empowerment that don’t derive their power from their relationship to a man.
Galaxy brain: all women have suppressed magic inside them waiting to be unleashed
I’m now a woman.
Okay seriously though, Charmed and BtVS were on and popular when I was a teen, so I can credit the shows for it.
salarta 